July 10, 2017

Events

February 3rd & 4th, 2018

Collaborative Couples Therapy Weekend,

“Celebrate Valentine’s day Couple’s Weekend”

Getting to the Heart of the Matter

Led by: Dan Wile, PhD and Dorothy Kaufmann, MFT

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 Dan Wile's method for couple's therapy is used worldwide and is used extensively in the couple's work of John and Julie Gottman. www.danwile.com for more information about Dan and Collaborative Couples

“I love Wile’s writing and thinking. They are entirely consistent with many of my research findings. I think that Wile is a genius and the greatest living marital therapist. I am blessed to have been able to exchange ideas with him.” - John Gottman

Workshop Summary

 A weekend workshop for couples, co-led by Dan Wile and Dorothy Kaufmann, will be offered for the first time in San Diego, California. This workshop will provide tools developed over the 40 years of Collaborative Couple Therapy, created by Dan, about how to have an engaged and fulfilling relationship. The heart of the weekend is experiential exercises done privately with your partner. Dan, Dorothy, and Laara Israhel, LMFT, help each couple as needed. This is a LGBTQ friendly workshop.  In addition to whatever specific issues a couple is struggling with (money, sex, children), there is generally the added and often more significant problem of how they talk--or don’t talk-- about these issues. The quality of life in a relationship depends on our ability to recover from the inevitable periods of fighting or withdrawing; that is, from turning each other into enemies or strangers. At a minimum, we want to keep such fighting and withdrawing from destroying the relationship. But it is possible to turn these hazards into means for deepening the relationship by holding a recovery conversation, in which both partners are able to say what they feel in a way the other can hear. In such a conversation, couples are in position to remember what they cherish about each other and to come up with whatever solutions, agreements, compromises, understandings, or meetings-of-the-mind might be possible. In an optimally functioning couple, fighting and withdrawing become opportunities for intimacy. In this workshop, we show how to create a reservoir of good will and a perspective from which partners can jointly guide the relationship. 

 Workshop Leaders

Daniel Wile, PhD, is a couple therapist in private practice in Oakland, CA. He has published numerous articles and three books (Couples Therapy, After the Honeymoon, and After the Fight) on couples in relationship. Dan gives professional workshops nationally and internationally.

Dorothy Kaufmann, PhD literature, MFT, has a private practice in Oakland, CA, working with couples and individuals. In her previous life in higher education, she taught and wrote in the humanities, a career she sees as informing her present vocation.

Dan and Dorothy also provide therapy conjointly, seeing couples who would like to work with a couple.

Organizer and contact, Laara Israhel, LMFT, is in private practice in San Diego. She works with couples, individuals and families.  Laara brings a long history in Mindfulness to her work with couples and individuals.

Comments by past participants

  • I found that every private session (10 minutes or more of couples only conversation) yielded something new about my partner that I didn’t know before. And this enhanced my curiosity about and empathy for him. I also learned new things about myself and was reminded of other important things about us as a couple.
  • The Sunday afternoon recovery conversation and the gentle, curious questions and supportive inquiring to expand on the experience were wonderful. I loved the positive “reservoir of good will” building and the Recovery Conversations.
  • It was a huge beautiful turning point for both of us.
  • Especially useful was hearing about how Dan and Dorothy navigate their own struggles.
  • The tone and rhythm of Dorothy and Dan was very comforting and created a sense of safety.
  • Amazing!! Best workshop I’ve ever attended. Well-paced, great exercises, expert facilitators.

 

Workshop Information

Location: San Diego Psychoanalytic Center

4455 Morena Boulevard, suite 202 (near Pacific Beach next to the Rose Canyon Costco)

San Diego, California  92117

Fee:  $795.00 per couple, $845.00 if received after January 1, 2018. Workshop space is limited. Early registration is recommended. Workshop is limited to 9 couples.

Time:  9:30am to 4:30pm, both Saturday and Sunday

Lunch and snack will be provided

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